Overwhelm can come from too many ideas, or not enough. It can seep in and knock you off track. It comes from comparing yourself to others or trusting too much in what other people say.
A couple years ago, I took a few months off to hike part of the Appalachian Trial. When I got back, I was ready to make money again.
I contacted a few leads and booked two clients my first week, with 2 more strong prospects I was waiting on closing, and a few other leads for smaller projects.
Things were going well.
THEN I talked to a business advisor, who was a pro at the back handed compliment. She essentially said that she had no idea why I wasn’t making millions of dollars a year. What was I doing?? She had no idea what was holding me back.
Instead of taking her words with a grain of salt – or a whole bottle of salt – I let them get to me. What was wrong with me? Why wasn’t I farther along?
Instead of hanging on to the potential I had, I hung on to the negative thought that I should be waaaay ahead of where I was.
I let her words affect me and stopped moving forward. I wallowed a bit in her words. They halted me because I believed them. They echoed a belief I had deep inside – that I should be farther along.
All I wanted to do was stay in bed.
What to do when you feel halted.
- What are you thankful for? Start listing everything you are thankful for. List everything. Your dog. Your cat. Your amazing spouse. Your phone case. Rain. Whatever you are thankful for.
- Help someone else. As someone that has been in the dark pit of yuck, I can tell you that focusing all on you keeps you there. There are times to focus on you. But when you are wallowing, it is time to get out of the pit. The fastest way to do that is do something nice for someone else.
- Stop comparing. Stop comparing yourself to others and the place you think you should be. You are exactly where you are supposed to be in this moment. And paradoxically, until you accept the present, you can’t move to something else.
- Focus on your progress. Making progress towards the goal is more important than meeting the goal. We feel successful when we are making progress. Write down how far you have come. Celebrate that. Example: Maybe you can’t run an 8 minute mile today, but 1 month ago you couldn’t even run a mile. That my friend is progress.
- Daily list. Every day, list 3 things that went great. You can also list 3 things that you learned and can improve on next time.
- Influences. Be really careful who you listen to. What is motivating them? Do they have the success you want?
The key is to pause when you feel overwhelmed or something happens that halts your progress. Pause. Take a deep breath or 10. Stop listening to what other people are saying and listen to your gut.