People + Relationships

What are you thankful for today?

Earlier I posted about the kindness of strangers and running out of gas.

At the beginning of the post, I mentioned going out of my way to avoid a woman on a handicapped scooter because I didn’t want the “green beast” to make her nervous. It makes a lot of weird noises and is a. . .beast.

Legs

PSA: Not my legs. Or my shoes

That was not the last time I saw her.

After driving to the gas station, pushing my car, walking to Target, and purchasing the gas can – I ran into her again. When I was walking back to the gas station, I saw her with her scooter, just entering the shopping center parking lot.

I was envious of her and thankful for my life at the same time.

I was envious because she was so in the moment; taking her time to get where she was going. There wasn’t the sense of ‘wanting to be there faster’ that I feel ALL the time.

And I was thankful for my life, because the worst thing that happened to me today was running out of gas, and I am physically able to push my car. My legs work. That is not a given – I am not ‘owed’ working legs. They are a blessing.

I wish I would have talked to her. I wanted to – but I didn’t want to interrupt her world.

What are you thankful for today?

 

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Kindness of strangers

 Whoever you are, I have always depended on the kindness of strangers.

- Blanche DuBois, A Streetcar Named Desire

I play ‘almost running out of gas’ roulette all the time. And I always win. Until today.

It is now:
Me: 10,000
Gas: 1

I needed gas last night. I REALLY needed it today. I was heading to the DMV (this day continued a saga of trying to get a driver’s license in Virginia) left the house to go get gas, but I forgot to put in my contacts.  I was going to the DMV, and was going to get an eye exam, I turned around and got my contacts.

I embarked on my journey again. This time I was behind a woman on a handicapped scooter – I didn’t want to make her uncomfortable, because there wasn’t room to pass and she was on the street, not the sidewalk, so I went a few blocks out of my way.

Finally, I’m making a u-turn into the gas station – on a pretty highly trafficked road in Alexandria, VA (Hwy 1 or Jefferson Davis Hwy for anyone that knows the area). Then my truck (it’s really an old Ford Explorer, nicknamed by one of my friends ‘the green beast’, but I like to use ‘truck’) quits – right as I am blocking 2 lanes of oncoming traffic. Awesome.

I throw it in neutral, and jump out to push. Pushing your car while steering – not easy. I was running back and forth from the back bumper to the steering wheel (oddly it did not occur to me to push FROM the driving side door). As I’m pushing people are staring at me from their cars. They aren’t yelling or laughing – but they also aren’t making a move to help me. I wasn’t upset about pushing my truck myself – but I am logical enough to realize that when pushing a vehicle – 2 is always better than one.

I got it turned around rest of the way – pointing in the right direction before a guy came to help me and told me to steer. Unfortunately, I was doing better pushing that he was (I played offensive line in the women’s version of the NFL – more on that later – point being we move large things). Pretty quickly another man came to help.

We push my truck  up to the pump – they run back to their cars as I chase after them trying to say thank you.

Next debacle: the explorer was on the wrong side of the pump, AND I was at a diesel pump. I didn’t really want anyone else to have to help me push, nor did I want to maneuver it around a gas station with all the pumps and cars pushing by myself. That seemed like it would become a  Frogger nightmare – I could already see me slamming into someone’s car.

It was a teeny tiny gas station that didn’t have a gas can, so I walked across the street to Target and got one. I got back to the gas station and was trying to assemble it as a woman came up and asked if I could move my car because she needed to get to the diesel pump. I laughed told her that I would LOVE to move my car, but it was a bit stuck. I continued to say I be more than happy to push my car back, but it would be really helpful if she would steer. So she helped me push it back and ended up helping me get my truck to a pump I could use.

As she was helping me, 2 other men ran up to help. I filled up my car and was on my way.

This got me thinking about the kindness of strangers. I experienced this a lot when I was hiking the AT this year (more on that later too). There are trail angels, amazing people who provide trail magic, or random acts of kindness for hikers. In each town that the trail goes through, residents give hikers rides, meals, and showers. Some are hikers themselves, some are just amazing people looking for an outlet to help others.

Today, I am very thankful for the kindness of strangers and am looking forward to paying it forward. It’s easy to forget how great people are. It would have been easy to get frustrated about this – and let it ruin my day. I did not make it to the DMV that day. The experience was pretty positive. And I’m pretty lucky to not have run out of gas before.

I would love to hear about the last time you helped someone who you didn’t know or the last time someone helped you.

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Anti-plannation

Here is a secret about me – I hate to plan. I also like to make up words (plannation, for example).

Planning freaks me out. Planning meals for a week makes my head spin. It’s a bit shameful for a former accountant to admit.  I don’t even want to think about trying to get the most out of a round the world ticket. I can plan professional things – product launches, audits in my former life. But when it comes to my personal life, I like to see what happens.

Last week I got to meet one of my heroes. I learned she existed about 3 weeks ago – and immediately fell in love with her life.

I was at Barnes and Noble writing – well, that was the plan, but instead I was browsing through travel memoirs.  I found Tales of a Female Nomad, and flipped through it. Even the introduction fascinated me - in 1986 at the age of 48, Rita Golden Gelman took off traveling and hasn’t had a permanent address since. I went to her website and saw she was in Annapolis until the end of January. WINNING!

I emailed her immediately and said I would love to meet her. She emailed me back within a few hours – resulting in me meeting her for lunch with her and 2 other women that were meeting her for the first time.

It was the kind of lunch where you want to remember everything that happened, everything that was said. I don’t. It was 4 hours.  I enjoyed all of Rita’s stories, and loved hearing about the other 2 women. Staci and Lesley are both travelers – Lesley is becoming a nomad herself VERY SHORTLY. Kindred spirits.

 

Rita & I

Rita, me, and my crazy, frizzified hair in Annapolis.

Things I love about Rita . . .

 

Her travel + connecting philosophy

She travels to connect with other people and become a part of their communities and cultures. She bonds over their food, their cultural activities, their lives. She doesn’t take pictures unless the natives also have cameras. She does nothing to elevate herself above who she is connecting with (such as giving American gifts). It is the ultimate in getting rid of the ‘us vs them’ mentality and melding with another culture.

She was scared too

What touched me the most about her books was how scared she was when she started this journey – she stretched herself in every way imaginable. At the beginning, she was 48 and had never eaten at a restaurant by herself. That is something I love to do.

But most importantly. . .not having a plan is ok

The biggest thing I learned from Rita is that its ok to not have a plan. She has been traveling for 26 years and doesn’t plan that far in advance most of the time. She moves on when she feels it is time to move on. After meeting her, I accepted that. Since then I have had peace about it.  All I need to know is the next step. . . everything else happens after that.

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